Being vulnerable with someone can be scary. But what about being vulnerable with yourself? How does that feel for you?
I’m learning that we sometimes have to be vulnerable to get to our next phase of understanding. This includes really accepting that we are feeling those uncomfortable emotions when they arise. Many of my clients have heard me talk about acknowledging and accepting certain experiences. In my version of therapy this means calling “it” by name and identifying how “it” has led to some type of response. The harsh reality is, that often we don’t even want to call “it” by name because of the implications of doing so.
For example, what if your “it” is that you believe that it’s hard for you to accept love. Acknowleding that may mean saying it out loud but accepting it means recognizing that you have had trouble in your relationships because you actively pushed away people who genuinely had your best interests at heart. That, Beloved, can be a hard pill to swallow.
Dig Deep
We have to teach ourselves that digging deeper to truly understand how we feel isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a challenge that can lead us to having more than just a surface level understanding of who we are.
Being vulnerable with yourself equates to being honest about what you need, want, or feel in any given moment. We don’t assess this just to give in to our inhibitions. We do it for clarity. Basically, we sit in discomfort so that we can better understand our needs.
I’ve been told “vulnerability is going to become your best friend…” What that made me realize is that I had to be okay with being vulnerable with myself in order to be vulnerable with anyone else. It’s lesson I’m learning in real time.
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