Can I be real for a min? Like, is it just me or does it feel like the sessions we don’t want to attend are the ones that do us the most good?
I recently had an “a-ha” moment after having a conversation with my mom. Things had been getting difficult and I was going through a lot and just felt like I didn’t have the energy to do the things that I needed to do for myself. One of those things was attending my bi-weekly therapy session. I literally griped and complained to my mom, saying I really, really do not want to attend this session. I knew that if I skipped this one, I would not have the desire to return to the next one. And her words to me were, “What’s the worst that could happen?” (Among other things I won’t repeat here lol). So I attended the session, and in the end, it turned out to be the best session I’d had with my therapist. I know that that’s a whole lot of self-disclosure, but I say all of this to say that sometimes the things that we NEED to do for ourselves are the things that we really just don’t want to do at all, and that’s OK.
The reality is that learning to prioritize “us” looks like putting forth the effort to take care of “us”. Whether that means eating a well-balanced diet, taking some time for yourself, doing the whole self-care spa day type thing, or just getting some sunlight and movement. Whatever that looks like for you, just do it when you don’t want to. You’d be surprised what you can get from it. For me, it’s recognizing that I don’t have to go through all the things alone. I’m so glad I had that therapy session. Because it reminded me that it’s OK to rest, to constantly challenge the negative thoughts and that I’m capable, period. I don’t have control over the things that I don’t have control over. But what I do have control over is what I need and can do for me. I hope that this entry serves as a reminder that you have control of the narrative. Focus on the things that are within your grasp. Focus on your present. Your past is what you can’t change. And your future is what’s yet to come. Try to put the energy where you are now. Rest when you need to, but don’t quit on yourself.
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